- best friend
- old friend
- family friend
- friend you really don't like
- long-lost friend
- work friend
- friend of a friend
- your husband's friend's wife
- neighbor friend
- occasional 'meet for drinks' friend
- 'keeper of all your secrets' friend (not always your best friend)
- childhood friend
- new friend
- almost forgot this one.... Facebook friend
The list could go on and on if I let it. In reflecting about all the different types of friendships, I realize they all come with their own set of rules. Not rules that everyone agrees to up front but unspoken rules depending on which catergory of friend you are dealing with. How do you go from being the neighbor friend to the best friend? And is that wise? Are your work friends really friends or is it just because you see them day in and day out, 40 hours a week. Would you tell your husband's friend's wife (because of course you have to be friends with her ,too) the same thing you would tell your 'meet for drinks' friend'? Have you lost a friend that you would love to have back? Is there a friend that you need to take a 'relationship vacation' from to reassess the friendship and it's value? Have you ever just wished for one friend that could be everything? Some people would say that is a 'best' friend. I would disagree. A best friend comes with a whole list of rules too. Sometime the most complicated rules.
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